Why the debate is irrelevant

So I’m 21 weeks pregnant and a couple days and I’m not sure if I’ve felt the baby kick. I read how some people feel kicks at 13 weeks, but that’s usually not with their first child. I’ve googled a lot about when I should feel it, and maybe some insight into how I’ll know. I probably have felt it but mistaken it for something else. Sometimes, on occasion, I will get a sharp pain in my side. Could that be it? I’m waiting for that very distinct moment when I can say with certainty, “That was the baby!”

Today and throughout this weekend I will be on a hunt for maternity (or larger) clothes. Yes, my normal clothes are getting tighter to the point where it’s no longer fun. If I wanted to I maybe could squeeze another week out of them, but I’ve made it this far without needing them so now I think it’s time to throw in the rag and start.

I’d also like to share some thoughts:
The debate has been going on for decades now, between stay at home vs. working moms and we should all agree that it is an irrelevant one. It is high time that we agree upon the fact both can be wonderful mothers if they want to.

We must leave behind the narrow-minded attitude that the working mom is better as she bring financial stability to the household or that the stay at home mum is more prolific as she is always available to her family.

There are advantages and disadvantages to both sides of the coin and hence after the never-ending debate, we are again brought to the very same starting point. Since time began (well maybe not that far back) there have been mothers that did nothing but devote themselves to home and family while others went out to help earn a living. The situations always vary and one choice is not right for all people. The decision of staying home or going back to work is a difficult and personal one. Often stay at home mom's not only wanted to be with their babies when they were experiencing those precious firsts but when they did the math it didn't add up.

There shouldn't even be a debate about whether to become a working mom or a stay at home mom. It's one of the most difficult and personal decisions that will ever be made in a home and it should stay that way. The mother and her family are the only ones that know what is best for them and what they can make work. Either decision should be supported instead of being mocked by those that don't agree.